Our Children's Needs - Part 8
Robert Elias Najemy
SOME LAST THOUGHTS
We can remember how we felt when we were children. We can spend time
remembering our various experiences feelings and needs which we had when we
were children. But even that is not enough. The conditions and environment of
our childhood years were very different than those, which our children
experience today. Thus we must imagine that we are our children and try to
understand how they feel. Then our words and actions will be in harmony with
their needs.
We need to believe in our children and ourselves. If we do not believe in
ourselves, we cannot believe in our children. Let us have faith that both we
and they are capable of facing life with our inner guidance, clarity and
effectiveness. Let us believe in our spiritual oneness and the power of
unconditional love is the solution for every problem. Let us be consistent and
respect ourselves and our children.
Let us continue our own education, our own growth, our own self-improvement,
our own spiritual evolution. Let us be true to who we are and overcome our
egos, our fears and attachments. Let us spend time with our children and share
with them the beauty of our inner selves. Let us grow together in humility and
simplicity with our children, discovering together the meaning and beauty of
life.
Let us close with some words from Maria Montessori:
"Without any doubt we have in the past been the unconscious oppressors of this
new human seed which bursts forth pure and charged with energy. And we have
superimposed ourselves upon it without admitting the needs of its spiritual
expansion. So the child has remained almost completely hidden - or very much
overshadowed - by this unconscious egotism of the adult. It would be an
affirmation not too well received, I imagine, were I to say that very often
the adult becomes an obstacle, rather than a help to the development of the
child. It is a most difficult thing for us to accept that statement that, very
often, it is our excessive care for the child which prevents the exercise of
his own activities, and therefore the expansion of his own personalityŠ
"Thus it comes to pass that when we, with the very best intentions and with
the most sincere wish to help, do everything for the child - when we wash him,
lift him up and plunk him down on his chair, feed him, and put him into that
species of cage we call his crib - in giving him all these unnecessary aids we
do not really help but hinder him.
"And later on, towards the boy or girl, we repeat the same error, when - still
holding to the belief that he cannot learn anything without our help - we
stuff him with intellectual nourishment, we nail him to the benches of the
school so that he cannot move, we make every effort to uproot his moral
defects, we crush or break his will, secure in our belief that in this way we
are acting for his highest good.
"And so we proceed in this manner indefinitely all along the line; and we call
this education. "
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If we care for our bodies and minds,
they will care for us.
Be Well
(Robert Elias Najemy's recently released book "The Psychology of Happiness"
(ISBN 0-9710116-0-5) is available at
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and
http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/psychofhappiness.html .
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