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Our Children's Needs - Part 4
Robert Elias Najemy
DO NOT WORRY
Worry is a direct message to our children that we do not feel secure, that we
do not feel able to face the tests and difficulties of life. It is a direct
message that we believe (and therefore it is true) that life is dangerous,
that human beings (and therefore our children) are weak and helpless and very
vulnerable to these dangers of life.
When we worry about the child, we are saying, between the lines, �I do not
have faith in you, in your ability to overcome the illness or this problem. I
do not have faith in your discrimination, in your inner strength, in your
ability to surpass this difficulty�. All this undermines our children�s inner
strength and faith in life itself.
It is also an indirect but clear message that we do not believe (and therefore
it is not true) in the existence of a divine power, a divine wisdom and
justice, a God, which is in some way connected with every being on the earth,
and is sustaining and guiding each being. Our children then mature into adults
who will believe that the world is chaos, that harm can come to us through
accident and that we are helpless to do anything about it. They will feel
weak, helpless, vulnerable victims living in a dangerous world. Their basic
reaction will be that which they learned from their parents - worry, anxiety
and fear.
If we really want to help our children, we will develop our inner strength and
ability to face life. We will develop greater faith in the spiritual truths
confirmed by all religions and spiritual philosophies. We will increase our
faith in divine wisdom and justice, which is bringing to us exactly the
experiences we need in order to mature emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
We also need to understand that our children are being guided by that same
spiritual force, and are also passing through exactly the experiences they
must pass through, in order to blossom into the great spiritual beings that
they really are.
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